Learning when to walk out is important. Too many people get stuck in places and routines and think they can’t escape. There’s people in dead end jobs and people in relationships that are going nowhere, but they don’t change their situation because they think that there’s no way out. There are people who have given up on ambition, who don’t see themselves as smart enough or handsome or pretty enough or creative enough to change their life.
If you hate your job, leave. If you aren’t happy with your partner, leave. If you aren’t happy with your situation, get up and do something about it. I know so many people with more potential and more talent than I will ever be able to grasp who think they can’t do things because they have never been told that they are allowed to. They have never been told that with enough effort, the entire world opens up for them.
I wish when I was younger, people had told me that life is yours for the taking, and that if something doesn’t come to you first time then try again. If you can’t get over a hill walk around it. If someone had told me I could be an author, if someone told me I could be a heart surgeon, a comedian, a singer, anything special then maybe I would have gone out and tried a bit harder when I was younger to be one of those things. School doesn’t make you feel empowered or unique, it makes you feel the same. Career advisers told me I could maybe be a teacher, or maybe an accountant. Maybe some people say that’s realism, but I call it shooting people’s expectations of life down. Why would I want to make effort at school so I can get a desk job and clock in at 9 and clock out at 5? That might be the reality, but telling someone that’s what their destined for can’t be healthy for their sense of ambition.
You never have to keep doing what you’re doing, and if there’s some quality you don’t like about yourself then you can change it. These things are difficult. I’m not wallpapering it over, hiding the cracks. Everyone falls into them, but we are judged by the way we climb out, not the number we have fallen into. The people who seem to us to have jumped straight over are probably just hiding it, and if they’re not then they are lucky.
It is never, ever too late to change course. This is of course partially a letter to myself, because if nobody else is going to tell you it then you have to tell yourself. You can call this entire thing cheesy but it’s what I believe, truly. And if this spreads around then I will be very happy because maybe it will give someone a reason to change. Good luck.